I had heard lots of different stories about giving birth and labour was the one part that scared me out of everything that was to come with being a mother. People don’t tend to share the positive experiences and I don’t know why that it is.
I didn’t know what to expect, Google and Youtube were my friends but I scared myself so much that I just wanted to hide. What I should have realised is that everyone’s experience is different and we all have different tolerances to pain.
I pleaded with my midwife to let me have a C-section thinking this would be the easier option and I wouldn’t have to worry about my lower regions never being the same again or dilating too quickly and the baby appearing in the hospital car park or lift but she kept saying that there was no reason to as I had had a healthy pregnancy.
It’s amazing how much I had started to think about everything but the baby! I got swept up in reading far too much. My husband would reassure me and tell me not to worry but I couldn’t help but think that he wasn’t the one that had to push out the baby.
What my wonderful midwife did do was help me make a birth plan, talk me through the different options and reassured me that I wouldn’t be left in unbearable pain.
I was 39+4 when my waters broke at home and I knew straight away that they had gone as I stood up to take our dinner plates into the kitchen and this gush of water appeared. My husband was ridiculously excited, he grabbed my notes, bag and ran to the car, leaving me still standing there! two minutes later he was apologising and guiding me to the car even though I was still able to walk.
The contractions started to come thick and fast. By the time I arrived at the hospital, I was 7cm dilated. Another 1.5hrs and I was ready to push. All of the fears that I had built up just disappeared. I managed with gas and air and in the end, I just told myself to just focus on meeting our baby. So the moral of the story is, don’t google, don’t listen to the horror stories and just go with the flow.
Our daughter Amelia Jayne Matthews arrived into the world weighing a healthy 7lb 3oz.